Any one else out there that was born with only one full hand?

my daughter was born with only her left hand, her right had stopps at the wrist so the palm and fingers never formed i was wondering if anyone else out there has the same thing and would like to offer some helpful suggestions on just about everthing shes is 13 months it hasnt slowed her down but holding bottles and cups took a little longer but her dr says shes one of the smartest babys he has seen and shell figure things out on her own but is there anything us parents can do to make some things easier for her

Any one else out there that was born with only one full hand?
A close friend who was my Maid of Honor in fact had this exact condition. Because she was born with it, she learned to work around it. She types with one hand and does everything everyone else does. She has married and is a great Mom. Other than being self conscious of it as a teen, she says it hasn't really affected her. Children can be cruel, so if she ever encounters someone who teases because of it remind her to pay attention to what those kids say to others. If it was not the hand, they would find something else to tease about whether it be rhyming a name, picking on clothes whatever. Make sure she understands that teasers tease everyone for something so not to take it personally. I would say the best thing you can do for her is not treat her like she is different from any other kid and make sure she knows how beautiful, smart and funny she is. Self confidence is the antidote to schoolyard bullies. Let her figure things out, but be there for her if there is a particular issue she finds frustrating. After you have 1 lunch with my friend, you don't even notice it anymore. She was active in volleyball, soccer and swimming in school and it never got in her way. If you treat it like it's not that big of a deal, so will she. If she treats it like it's no big deal, so will other kids and adults. It's all a matter of making the most of what God gave her, just like the rest of us.





And BTW, she DOES tie not only her own shoes, but her son's as well. And if there ARE things she can't do, so what? I have two hands, but there are lots of things I have tried that I suck at and can't do. It shouldn't stop her from trying, or make her feel bad if she can't make it work.
Reply:wow thats phucked up, good luck teaching her how to tie her shoes..





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How in the hell do you think shes going to play softball? she gonna field with her mouth. Thats the dumbest thing i ever heard of...
Reply:my sister had 2 diformed hands, and she learned to do the monkeybars, pretty much on her own.. We were all amazed!
Reply:just let her find her own way of doing this and if she needs help she'll give her signs, the worst thing u can do is treat her differently, just leave her and let her do her own thing and treat her normally
Reply:I am sorry to say that I am almost positive anything I tell you will be useful or at the very least comforting but it sounds to me that she is very smart but will most likely not be able to play sports or do anything to athletic. Because she will be forced to be a lefty her right brain will become stronger (right brain controls left side of the body and left brain controls right side of the body). The right side controls:


Creativity


Patterns


Spatial Awareness


Context
Reply:I had a friend like her in high school. The best thing that you can ever do for her is treat her like she has two hands. Don't shelter her or try to find things that are easy for her because she has one hand. If she comes to love softball one day, encourage her instead of pushing her into soccer. My friends parents never changed anything about her versus how they raised their other kids, and it was perfect. The only time you should come to her aid is when it is something that she really needs help with to avoid being hurt like when she first learns to cut construction paper with scissors alone (my friend held the paper down with her wrist and slid the scissors under it along the table to cut it how she liked). Once she finds her way of doing something, back up and let her...she will amaze you.
Reply:My neighbor growing up sounds just like your daughter. His palm and fingers are there, but not fully formed and they are quite a bit smaller than his other hand. I was around this man every day and never noticed until I was around 12 or 13. It never stopped him from doing anything. He's an accountant so obviously he writes a lot and knows the 10 key touch on the numbers pad. He coached little league when his own kids were little. He also has 5 children and quite a few grandchildren, this problem did not get passed to any of them. I wouldn't treat her any different. She has never known any different and won't realize what an obstacle she could have. She'll pick up things in her own way and I doubt there is anything she won't be able to do.
Reply:she needs to have some way of being hardened to the cruel world many peoplpe might make fun of her as sad as it is so if she gets her feelings hurt try to let her cope on her own she will learn to solve her own probelms and she wont be as hurt by other kids it will make her a stronger person and you will be thankful for it
Reply:My little sister was born with only one arm the right side had stop growing. She is now 14 years old. Let me tell you your daughter is a very special unique little girl. The world maybe be cruel but there is nothing you or god can do to stop that. One word of adivce let your little girl doing things on her own it may take time for her to do things but she will surpise you. I wish the best of luck to you and your family God Bless You...
Reply:my best advice to you is exaclty what people have suggested she does'nt know there is a problem and if you let her know by doing things for her she will never be independent there will come a time you won't be there to help her and she needs to know how to handle it watch the movie ray it's about ray charles it will help you understand the importance of letting her do it on her own hope this was helpful hun

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